Form your own party. Not only that, but do it in Jueno. You can still look in Qufim and see who is available, and you avoid the chaos of people running across the zone and dying while trying to meet you.
Also, most pickup parties in Qufim usually come about like so:
Two different crappy parties are having no luck. Each disbands and the members intermingle...forming two more crappy parties. This process goes on all the time and finding a balanced party is rare in Qufim.
If you want a balanced party you either need to do it yourself, or find someone who you know can do it and befriend them with a quickness.
Assuming you want to do it yourself here are some tips:
1- Make sure that the tanks are the same level or higher than the mages. Otherwise they will take more damage and hit less than they should, and downtime will increase.
2- Always fill the important spots first. These include Tank (PAL or WAR), healer (WHM or RDM) and damage dealer (almost everything else).
3- Assign Renkei, debuffs, Tanking and pulling before the group begins to fight.
4- Have the Healer tell the puller (and there should only be one) what a safe level of mana is to pull at.
5- Do not be afraid to kick someone if they are being an ***, or are just plain incompetent. If they seem new, then try to show them the ropes.
6- Do not be a tyrant. Make suggestions rather than orders, but also make it clear that you are the leader. Listen to your group, and don't be afraid to ask if they know a better camp spot or renkei.
7- When looking for new members send a tell first listing your group level and composition
If you are opposed to forming your own group there isn't much that you can do. Always make sure that your comment is set with your TNL, vital stats and things like whether you have a Kazham pass or need your subjob items.
If you are not getting invites do a /sea all of people your level and start asking if there is room for your job/level.
Hope that helps...