Ok this is something that has bugged me for awhile. Yesterday I was in Qufim looking for a party. I noticed that there were two other people (a Warrior and a Thief/Warrior) looking, so I suggested to them that we should party. We all got together and then started looking for a healer. This is, of course, extremely hard to do. Meanwhile, since I was the party leader, I was getting tells from other people asking to join. There was a Thief, a Warrior (good friend of mine) and a Black Mage. They all were gung ho about joining until they asked if we had a WHM. I responded that we were looking for one, and they either decided not to join or I got no further response. This irritates me to no end. I can sort of understand the BLM, as mages can afford to be picky with parties (since they will always find a party). However, melees really have no reason to be picky. What else are you going to do man? Most likely sit on your *** with your flag up, bored out of your mind and earning NO experience, hoping somebody picks you up. In a party you at least can converse with other players, and even fight tough con monsters, while searching for a WHM. That's what my party did. We picked up a Pal/War and fought some tough con Worms until I had to go.
To me it's a sign of extreme impatience when someone won't join a group without a WHM. It's not like it's easy to find them, and it will only get worse in Kazham. I realize that some people are doing this in an attempt to avoid bad groups. While I can understand the principle behind that, you can't assume that just because a group doesn't have a WHM that they are bad. If everybody refused to join until the group had a WHM, hardly anybody would get groups. Plain and simple. Why not stick with what you can get (low experience vs. no experience) without a healer until the group can find one. But I guess some people would rather spend hours sitting with their flag up.